Successfully counselling clients through difficult times requires a combination of interpersonal skills, sufficient knowledge about the issues involved and a host of personal attributes. Balancing and adapting all this information requires the counsellor or psychotherapist to maintain a level head, confidence in their abilities and a genuine interest in providing support.
A successful counsellor must be able to demonstrate a thorough understanding of the counselling process. There are a number of key personal qualities that counsellors and psychotherapists should also possess, and which will make the therapeutic relationships they have with their clients more effective.
EmpathyWithout this quality a counsellor will be unable to comprehend the problems, experiences, thoughts and feelings of another person, and will not be able to offer clients the level of supportive understanding that they will require.
CongruenceThis provides clients with a vision of a counsellor’s genuine understanding and supportive nature.
Positive RegardCounsellors must be able to build counselling relationships on a foundation of warmth, understanding and genuine support. In order for this to work, and to encourage a client to self-disclose, counsellors must have a natural rapport with a client.
RespectCounsellors must show respect for another person, and their welfare, at all times. They must also remain impartial and non-judgmental.
Challenging skillsA client must experience challenging questioning if they are to make progress during the counselling relationship. Being able to detect contradictions and encourage positive thought is an important part of the counsellor’s role.
Active listening, good interpersonal skills and an ability to question, reflect and challenge attitudes and beliefs are all personal skills that can help a counsellor build a successful career. An interest in self-awareness and self-development will also ensure that the counsellor or psychotherapist continues to develop their counselling skills, whilst expanding their own knowledge of themselves.
A counsellor can also utilise many other important skills within a counselling relationship, and this could include good planning and motivational skills, problem solving, organisational ability and re-orientation skills. Each counsellor will bring their own unique abilities, qualities and skills into a counselling relationship, but must ultimately ensure that their client feels safe and supported.
Besides the counselling qualifications, and additional certificates, a counsellor should possess in order to provide a good counselling relationship, the counsellor must also be armed with sufficient personal knowledge and understanding of what counselling is all about. They must also be clear about the role of the counsellor and the problems, issues and expectations every client will present.
A counsellor must also be self-aware, and must be in control of their feelings, thoughts and emotions whilst working with clients.
A counsellor’s own personal development must be in a continual process of development, growth and expansion. They must demonstrate an interest in self-awareness, self-counselling, work/life balance, focus, goal setting and other complementary areas of self-knowledge. Through their own development a counsellor will also pick up additional understanding and knowledge, which they can effectively use to support a client during the counselling process.
Please can you tell me or guide me as to what is meant by: absence of personality disturbance, in a counselling question, scenario ...
It's this latter part of the question, I am struggling to decipher..
Give examples where you have demonstrated emotional stability and the 'absence of personality disturbance'
Higsey - 17-Jan-21 @ 2:27 PM
im doing a counselling course and it is helping me personally
hilda - 14-Nov-20 @ 3:42 PM
Is there a particularly area you wish to work with.
I think your tutor wants to see things personal to you ie if you want to work with children, you may want to learn more about safe guarding, or drug abuse. This maybe achieved by doing a course, or visiting local supports groups in area of interest to gain more information. Groupon and woucher have some specific courses like safeguarding, or dementia ect. Otherwise check free courses at colleges. I attend Walsall college and I know they do some
Jane - 25-Apr-20 @ 2:02 AM
I wish to get more answers on my research here
ucsplendour - 7-May-19 @ 10:29 PM
I am currenly a student of counselling and will be willing to participate to share idea and gain knowledge
luiza - 16-Dec-18 @ 2:01 PM
chippy - Your Question:
HI. I need to be more specific in my personal development plan for my degree couse in counselling. I have talked about self care, keeping up to date with policys and procedures and my own skills. My tutor has suggested to be more specifc. Is anyone able to give me just a couple of examples as I feel I have lost my way a little with this assigment. Thanks guys
The university may wish you to give specific examples of where you have put these skills into practice.
TheCounsellorsGuide - 19-Apr-18 @ 10:27 AM
HI. I need to be more specific in my personal development plan for my degree couse in counselling. I have talked about self care, keeping up to date with policys and procedures and my own skills. My tutor has suggested to be more specifc.Is anyone able to give me just a couple of examples as I feel I have lost my way a little with this assigment. Thanks guys
chippy - 18-Apr-18 @ 2:51 PM
shish - Your Question:
Enjoying every bit of my counseling classes. I feel so so sad that it took me a lot of years to discover my gift in counseling. Your article helping me a lot, thank you for great insight
We are glad you have found the career that is right for you.
TheCounsellorsGuide - 4-Apr-17 @ 11:04 AM
enjoying every bit of my counseling classes. I feel so so sad that it took me a lot of years to discover my gift in counseling. Your article helping me a lot, thank you for great insight
shish - 3-Apr-17 @ 5:11 PM
I would like to know why I should have knowledge about the cbt as a counselor I mean why should I he knowledge about its strengths and weaknesses?
fayie - 9-Mar-17 @ 5:11 PM
Gem la bell - Your Question:
I've just complete the first unit on a counselling course , its 3 years in total and at the end I will have a BA Hons in counselling. Im really enjoying the course, its so interesting and im also learning alot about myself, definately becooming more self aware. I found your articles really helpful when researching for my essay on Should trainee counsellors be in therapy?ThanksGem
You're welcome Gem and we are glad you have found your vocation and are enjoying the course.
TheCounsellorsGuide - 19-Oct-15 @ 11:02 AM
i've just complete the first unit on a counselling course , its 3 years in total and at the end i will have a BA Hons in counselling. Im really enjoying the course, its so interesting and im also learning alot about myself, definately becooming more self aware. i found your articles really helpful when researching for my essay on Should trainee counsellors be in therapy?
Gem la bell - 18-Oct-15 @ 10:05 AM
Is counselling a good career to take on?
Jojo - 11-May-15 @ 2:07 AM
howgood councelling skills help both the counceller and the client?