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Counselling and Self Awareness

By: Anna Martin - Updated: 22 Apr 2016 | comments*Discuss
 
Counselling Self Awareness Understanding

Because of the intimately private counselling work that qualified counsellors and psychotherapists do with clients, it is vitally important that a counselling professional is fully self-aware. Being able to self-reflect enables a counsellor to identify and develop personal awareness, and to remain emotionally detached from the relationship he/she is developing with a client.

Relating to Others

Counsellors will naturally draw their own conclusions about self-awareness. Their work with clients may present many personal challenges, but also an on-going opportunity to assess personal strengths, feelings, thoughts and limitations, as they relate to other people. Understandably a counsellor may also experience a sense of personal familiarity, whilst counselling clients, but must remain emotionally detached at all times.

Relating to clients, in a positive, open manner, encourages the client to disclose in a comfortable, confidential environment and provides the counsellor with the ideal setting in which to communicate in a supportive way. Using their own life experiences, a counsellor can demonstrate empathy, compassion and understanding without becoming personally involved in the counselling process.

Becoming More Self-Aware

Self-awareness is something that grows over a period of time and with exploration. Techniques, to access information about oneself, can be learned, and personal experiences can affect personal thoughts and feelings. A counsellor will experience all of these issues and concerns, and must use the knowledge gained to help their clients overcome their own personal issues.

Throughout a counsellor’s training he/she will be exposed to a series of opportunities that will allow them to question their own beliefs, awareness and values, and how these impact on their personal lives, work and others. It is this self-awareness and self-knowledge that forms the foundation of their counselling career.

A person’s growth and understanding can only be assessed through self-awareness, and it is no different for those working in a therapeutic profession. Being continually open to personal, and career, development will help a counsellor fully understand their values and self.

Dealing With Intimacy

Counselling is a very personal, private and confidential process for each individual client. It is also a challenging experience for the counsellor who is supporting the client through the counselling process. Dealing with intimate information, on any level, will make a person feel exposed and a counsellor will experience this also. Maintaining a professional attitude throughout the counselling process will enable the counsellor or psychotherapist to assist the client, to the best of their ability. However, at the end of the counselling relationship a counsellor must be able to close the door on the relationship.

A good counsellor will not also not allow their own beliefs, attitudes and values to compromise the client-counsellor relationship in any way.

Changing Attitudes

Through supervised counselling sessions and consultations with experienced professionals, a counsellor will be able to explore their own self-awareness and personal development. Difficulties in counsellor-client attitudes can also be expressed. This should be an on-going process throughout a counsellor or psychotherapist’s career, and can provide the therapist with clarity, focus, further understanding and personal growth. Without a positive outlet to explore these ideas a counsellor will lack the opportunity to Develop Their Skills.

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The section of Counselling and Self Awareness is really a commendable topic. Really educative, especially to me. I am a diploma student in Psychological counselling and this is helpful. God bless.
Alicia - 22-Apr-16 @ 12:43 PM
I have been in a relationship with an emotionally abusing man. He is currently cheating his way through a counselling course and preys on vulnerable people. He also has a criminal record for being in possession of and cultivating drugs and an assault charge against a woman! Are there any rules that mean with these charges he cannot become a registered counsellor. I have spoken to his tutor who knows he did not write his own essays but is willing to give him another chance. Then he acquired another drugs charge?
Niffer - 28-Nov-15 @ 5:19 PM
My question is.what would you say the counsellor could learn by paying attention to his/her negative feelings during the counselling process?
Tazman - 5-Oct-15 @ 3:14 PM
@alle - Counsellors are really supposed to be objective and extricate themselves from their own beliefs aren't they?
Jess - 4-Mar-15 @ 1:46 PM
how can the beliefs of a counsellor affect his or her counselling sessions?
alle - 2-Mar-15 @ 12:54 PM
my question is can a counsellor mar or make guidiance and counselling service.
oye - 16-Jul-14 @ 4:21 PM
My parents think that Bcos I am fifteen,i'm pretty much grown, ready to be on my own or should marry and spare them the problem of training me in the University
mercy - 19-Jun-14 @ 5:12 AM
WHAT CAN YOU HANDLE OVERAGE (BETWEEN 13 - 17 YRS) STUDENTS IN SCHOOL WHILE IN CLASS 4 - 6
Uncle J - 18-May-13 @ 10:27 AM
Am developing Girls and Boys Clubs in the rural Schools of kenya. I work for Choice Humanitarian Kenya as the Education Project Officer in Kinango District of Kwale County of Kenya. I wish to be associated with you to help curb the teenage challenges and help them improve their performance in Schools.
Uncle J - 18-May-13 @ 10:24 AM
Help with some tips in dealing with students in classrooms who are at risk but misbehaves at all times.
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